Friendships and us!

Along the journey that begins after one completes college, one sometimes doesn’t realize how much he/ she changes as a person. Perhaps it is the time to change. Filled with ambition and the zest to prove oneself we set out to make our mark, all gears set to achievement and success. We work hard and  for most, somewhere along the path, also get married and maybe even have kids. Most of us hop jobs till we get where we want to be , some of us may buy a house, settle down, you know in the traditional way! WHEW! before we realize it we are not what we were years before. Gone are the care free days .Now routines, schedules and deadlines rule our lives!We live responsibly and are responsible adults and needless to say, responsibility is our motto. Also along the line, sureptiously so, some us turn skeptical and attain a rather ironic outlook on life. We tend to not make new friends easily or we complain we don’t have friends like we used to have in the good old times.Needless to say, at this point, not only has life’s priorities changed us,but, friendships have too, which in itself, by the way, is just a complex organism that evolves on an often unpredictable path of its own.

AS people grow in life, for good or for worse, so do friends.Individuals who once were good friends may not connect on the same frequency anymore. Values, priorities change, so do we! Gone is the youthful innocence and the luxuries of time. Sometimes the time comes to evaluate just that, as people continue to grow and change: did they grow apart or just grow in different directions.Are the differences so big or vast that the friendship is not possible anymore. Yes, in some cases that is the case. In others, the love or the fondness that the friends feel outweighs these differences and keeps them together in spite of the ways they’ve changed.The question then is TO BE OR NOT TO BE, TO HOLD ON OR TO LET GO! There are many who do and many who don’t.

Meanwhile, there are those friends who connect across decades and start off again at the same exact point where they had left off. For a microcosm is created , one that goes back in time and for a small speck of time in the entire scheme of life and its important deadlines you rise over the din and bask in the warmth of the glow of the good old days.New confidences are built, new insights shared, new tricks conjured, and in between endless laughs and tears somewhere the magic happens, of applause given and received simply for being you and likewise for  your friend.Promises are made to remain in touch for many more decades to come, to attend the weddings of each other’s kids and life is good.There is hope and there is light at the end of the tunnel. As long as promises are made and the intentions are good: life is good my friends and  there is light at the end of the tunnel.